Motivation · Power Thoughts · Rick Warren

POWER THOUGHTS: What Forgiveness Really Is

PowerThoughts1

“Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34a NIV).

Forgiveness may be the most misused, misapplied, and misunderstood quality in our culture. We think we know what forgiveness is all about, but we really don’t. Before reading further, take a minute to do this little quiz by deciding if each statement is true or false.

  1. A person should not be forgiven until he asks for it.
  2. Forgiving includes minimizing the offense and the pain caused.
  3. Forgiveness includes restoring trust and reuniting a relationship.
  4. You haven’t really forgiven until you’ve forgotten the offense.
  5. When you see somebody hurt, it is your duty to forgive the offender.

When you read the Bible and see what God has to say about forgiveness, you discover that all five of those statements are false. How did you do?

We’re going to spend the next few days looking at what forgiveness really is, because most people don’t understand forgiveness.

First, real forgiveness is unconditional. There’s no attachment to it. You don’t earn it. You don’t deserve it. You don’t bargain for it. Forgiveness is not based on a promise to never do it again. You offer it to somebody whether they ask for it or not.

When Jesus stretched out his hands on the cross and said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing,” nobody had asked for it (Luke 23:34a NIV). Nobody had said, “Please forgive me, Jesus, for what we’re doing to you.” He just offered it. He took the initiative.

Second, forgiveness isn’t minimizing the seriousness of the offense. When somebody asks for your forgiveness and you say, “It’s no big deal. It really didn’t hurt,” that actually cheapens forgiveness. If it wasn’t a big deal, you don’t need forgiveness and you don’t need to offer it.

Forgiveness is only for the big stuff. You don’t use it for slights that are just minor issues. If something really requires forgiveness, then you should not minimize it when somebody asks you for forgiveness. You shouldn’t say it wasn’t a big deal. It was a big deal! If it wasn’t a big deal, just say, “You don’t need to ask forgiveness.” But if it is a big deal, then you need to admit it.

There are a lot of big deals in life. Have you noticed that? But there is a difference in being wounded and being wronged. Being wounded requires patience and acceptance, not forgiveness, because the person did it unintentionally. Being wronged requires forgiveness.

04-23-16-The-Daniel-Plan-What-Forgiveness-Really-Is

 

 

Love and joy to you all,

3l8vgf8e2pga9jxok0br

(Source: Rick Warren)

Advertisements

One thought on “POWER THOUGHTS: What Forgiveness Really Is

  1. Nice thought. We just have discussed about forgiveness recently. For some, it’s really hard for them to forgive someone who have done wrong on them specially if that someone is very close to their hearts. But we shouldn’t forget that forgiving is letting go as well of the pain we have inside. It is not actually an option, it i something that should be freely given. We’ll be extremely broken if we don’t forget and forgive. For us to be whole, one way is to forgive. Pray to God. God truly helps. I was actually moved by this. God bless you to the brim. 🙂 thanks for sharing.

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s